ISBN: 9781250052926
Published by St. Martin's Press on 2015-05-05
Genres: Communication & Social Skills, Family & Relationships, General, Interpersonal Relations, Psychology, Self-Help
Pages: 320
Goodreads
We all need emotional blinders: the etiquette that keeps society smoothly moving depends on it. But when you absolutely must rely on another person, you have to be able to assess them objectively. In RED FLAGS, author Wendy L. Patrick shares simple strategies anyone can use to spot deceptive or downright dangerous people who use ingratiation and social convention to draw in and lull victims.
Readers will learn how even the most skeptical of us use rose-colored lenses on those around us, in three sections:--Blinded by Desire--from the alluring lenses of attraction and positive attention to the blindness of marital "bliss" and the distorted lens of delusion--Overlooking Red Flags in a Professional Setting--how reassuring proximity and the false security of credibility and similarity can lead to costly mistakes --Be Afraid of What You Can't See--the ultimate cost of wearing emotional blinders around the truly disturbed/criminal, from sexual predation to domestic abuse, stalking and cyberstalking
Readers will learn how to:--avoid selective attention--observe people over time (bad guys rely on first impressions)--ask questions: most people's favorite topic is themselves--cybersleuth to verify information and track down inconsistencies
You need this book if you:--want to know if a potential boyfriend is trustworthy--are interviewing or hiring new employees--are selecting anyone to take care of your children--are lending money or property--have partners in business.
About the Author
Wendy L. Patrick is a San Diego County Deputy District Attorney, recently named the 2014 Ronald M. George Public Lawyer of the Year by the California State Bar’s Public Law Section. She has also been recognized by her peers as one of the Top Ten criminal attorneys in San Diego by the San Diego Daily Transcript. She has completed over 150 trials ranging from hate crimes, to domestic violence, to first-degree murder.
In her current assignment in the Special Operations Division, she handles sensitive cases involving public officials, officer involved shootings, and attorney misconduct. In her previous assignment in the Sex Crimes and Human Trafficking Division of the San Diego County District Attorney’s Office, Dr. Patrick prosecuted sexually violent predators, human traffickers, stalkers, rapists, and child molesters. She is co-chair of both the statewide California District Attorneys Association Sexually Violent Predator Committee, and Human Trafficking Committee.
Her doctoral thesis for her PhD focused on the psychology of attraction used to seduce victims and their families. She has been involved with the San Diego Domestic Violence Council, the San Diego Child Protection Team, and the Sexual Assault Response Team, from whom she received the SART Response with a Heart Award based on her significant contribution to the professional field of sexual assault prosecution.
On a personal note, Dr. Patrick holds a purple belt in Shorin-Ryu karate, is a concert violinist with the La Jolla Symphony, and plays the electric violin professionally with a rock band, performing both locally and in Hollywood.
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What an intriguing excerpt & she’s quite the amazing woman. The books for me but I may buy my mother a copy
This is a book for both of us, though I think I could benefit from it most at this point in my life. 🙂
I could use this book and benefit from it.
I think I could make very good use of this book!
I definitely could use this book. Thanks for having the giveaway.
I’d love to win this book. It sounds like it would be very helpful.
Hello Wendy you sound like an incredible woman. All the best with your books.
Definitely a book which I would appreciate and treasure.
I am a child protective investigator and I would love a copy of this book. I think that I might be able to learn some things that could get me be better at my job; better at keeping kids safe. Thanks for the opportunity!
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I seem to always have toxic people in my life so this sounds like something I could use.
A must-read book for anyone who would like to hone their instincts and increase their skills when reading people. Both interesting and entertaining, Dr. Patrick brings situational awareness to a whole new level. “Red Flags” is a masterfully written study in human behavior that serves as a guidebook to arm the reader against those who might try to take advantage, if not possibly harm.